Tips on How to Negotiate and Acquire Negotiation Skills

Maintain Credibility.

         Nothing can destroy trust and good will like the discovery that one has been lying or that one is operating with less than candor.  Counterparties will clam up and be more inclined to resort to competitive approaches in self-defense if they perceive a negotiator to be dishonest or insincere.  Crafty conduct can not only hurt one in the instant negotiation but also can wreak havoc on one’s reputation in the long run.

         Assess Commitment Levels & Risk Tolerance.

         A classic image is the game of chicken.  Imagine teenagers racing at each other in hot rods in some LA viaduct.  Who will swerve out of the way?  If I were driving, I know the answer.  I tend to be highly risk averse.  It is fascinating to watch commitment levels at play in negotiations.  There is great strength in posing a credible threat.  To the extent one is able to gage the counterparty’s commitment to a certain course of action or deal element, one will understand whether a concession need be made.  The capacity to understand the nature of one’s own and the other’s level of commitment, and also tendency to avoid risk in general and on the particular point at issue comes not only from understanding the person, but also from understanding their context.  What happens to them if they give on a particular point?  What interest is affected?  What in the larger picture do they win or lose?  This analysis should be applied for understanding of both self and others.

         Nosce Mundus (Know the World)

         None of us lives in isolation.  As indicated above, to understand ourselves, we must understand our context.  This is true for understanding the other as well.  An effective negotiator is sensitive to the context in which every party is suspended, recognizing the impact of context and using it as a strength.

         Behold the Business Context.

         Litigators in particular can be reminded to think beyond the case.  Why did this case originate?  What is driving the parties?

         If one is negotiating a real estate deal, it certainly pays to understand the current real estate market, and even the broader economic climate as that affects property and resale values, demand for space, capacity to build, the ability to obtain loans, interest rates, and related issues.

         More specifically, knowing a market enables the negotiator to arrive at more compelling standards for use when setting values.  The uses of mutually acceptable standards is routinely recommended by proponents of principled negotiation.  Once recognized, they give direction to a negotiation and support fair and doable deals.

         Heed the Hierarchy.

         Wayne Outten, when thinking about strategies for negotiating on behalf of employees, considers where those employees stand within the framework of their employer.  Do they have political allies, “Rabbis,” people willing to go to bat for them?  Do they have “political capital,” credibility with certain supervisors or others in management?  Have they earned loyalty; would harm to the employee engender a sense of guilt?

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